i was amidst a conversation with my mother, whom i love dearly, but unfortunately she is a mother.
a woman.
a wife.
and i say these expecting you to take them in as traditional, stereotypical terms.
having me as a daughter isn't too much of a scare, our generation is considerably much more liberal. don't get me wrong, women were rocking their rights back in the day but "some" is the defining term. they were a group. or a movement. now you're just a teenage girl who knows her rights and won't take shit from nobody, bitch!
back to our conversation.
i mentioned my distaste for weddings and formal events because they force me into costumes/dresses.
she mentioned the current lack of marriages and i in my moment of [sarcasm]wisdom[/sarcasm] summed up the latest lifestyle for her: seasonal mating.
which does not really make sense for what i'm about to discuss, that's more a reference to relationships that are verified loving relationships, but that eternal love just isn't real and they eventually move on and change partners. but i needed an introduction. so basically that was all crap..
relationships full of love, longing, partnership and commitment. without a rock.
wouldn't seem bizarre to an alien or someone frighteningly uncultured who has never heard of marriage.
how could the effect of adding a rock to the mix be so important?
marriages. how important are they really and what are they?
i'm not going to turn this into a gay marriage discussion.. but should marriage really be the height of showing love and devotion, because i know of homosexual couples that would do it in a heartbeat if they could but because they're not legally married are their emotions not viable?
are they promises on the shelf that you can only read once you've got the government or churchies or parents blessing?
i don't think so. that is really sad.
maybe marriage had some true value at some time, and i'm not saying it doesn't hold value now.. but we don't wear skirts to our toes anymore and guys can join dance class. things r not the same.
my point is me defending my view, not against marriage, but against it's importance in defining and deciding what a committed relationship is.
maybe i should stop sniffing nail polish remover.. but it's soooo good mum.
